Afraid, disappointed, scared, worried

Four months ago, #1 stop going to his community college classes. Two months ago, I confronted him asking him about the situation with school. Long conversation later…my conclusion was only goal has to be to fix why he could not have told me before or while he was making this decision. Afraid, disappointed, scared, worried, are words that came up. I reassured him I was not as concerned about the dropping out as much as the deception involved in covering it up. Fast forward 2 weeks ago he texts “Are you able to facetime later today”. "Oh boy" went through my head, "but at least he wants to talk". We come to find out he is just afraid to tell us he would like to try a new career option with 5-week school 11 months from now. He did is research and came to the conversation with a plan. THIS WAS A WIN. The conversation was the only detail that mattered to me. A foundation is being laid.

I bring this up for another reason, however. At work I have run across an adult version of the man my son could become. I have an agreement with a company to preform work for them, and when either party feels it is not in our best interest to continue that work, we just give a 90-day notice. I hear a rumor that the company wants to end our agreement in a couple of months, so take the rumor for what it is and wait. Come to find out a “man” is too afraid to have a conversation, so he asks another “man” to have a conversation. Neither do, and as things develop a white lie turns worse and worse…

Sons, it’s not easy to have difficult conversation, but these conversations build your character beyond what you can imagine. Research, have a plan, and show the person you are having a conversation with some respect.